Gastroparesis literally means "stomach paralyzed" in Latin
You can be fine for hours, then all of the sudden you get nauseous or fatigued. It can be distressing.
Gastroparesis affects my stomach, abdominals, pelvic floor. All of these muscles connect to other muscles that cause me pain, discomfort, and sometimes humiliation. Personally, I prefer to stand. More trouble happens while I am sitting for long periods.
Being around food for long is dispiriting. So many activities in our culture center around meals. I have read studies that people eat more in group settings. I agree with it. In the presence of others, I tend to go off guard sometimes. I usually lose.
Also, every person that lives with this has different triggers. Different people tolerate different foods and feel different pains. Although we as gastroparesis sufferers have a lot in common, we have a lot of differences in our day-to-day conditions.
A sloth is the mascot of gastroparesis. I am unsure if it is depression, malnutrition, or the body using a lot of energy trying to digest foods, but you get tired rapidly. You get more irritable because you are unnaturally tired all the time. Naps are good. However, they make you feel like you are a child, or an old person. However, I will say it again: naps are good.
You have some choice in being positive. However, having a tiring, unpredictable, painful illness can make you feel dominated rapidly and repeatedly. Sometimes you harness the beast, but other times it owns you.
I believe we have a mind-body connection. When our stomachs are nauseous usually the last thing on we want to hear about are our looks. We've probably lost a significant amount of weight and our bodies feel awkward. Comforting someone by talking about their appearance provides zero comfort.
In a nice way, I have to say, please have some respect for what you do not understand or see
While IBS is something I may have, it is not gastroparesis. Please do not label my condition into your pre-conceieved notion of what you understand.